I have a friend, she's a sorority sister, and she is the mother of a son who is about a year older then my daughter. He was recently diagnosed with a slight form of autism. His mom and I have been friends since college and while we don't talk often, we keep up with each other and pick up wherever we left off last. To say my friend is organized is an understatement. Do I have drive, stamina, determination, organization skills? She's on a whole other level with it all. She spent a few years as a teacher, then became a principal before becoming an entrepreneur and running her own store - successfully. We had lots in common over the years and it seems even more as time went on, which is why she and I managed to stay in touch. Those skills of hers are what guided her as a parent and got her son to a level of behavior that overcame the symptoms of that autism they never even knew he had back when. When he was diagnosed he was already more advanced than others in his situation would have been. She is worthy of being admired, but don't try to be like her. You growing sense of inadequacy will just send you to therapy.
Tuesday, October 04, 2011
Friday, April 22, 2011
Had one of those days when I couldn't concentrate because my business kept tapping my shoulder and whispering sweet nothings in my ear, telling me of all the wonderful things we're going to do together. And I believe it because although it's been a long road, things have been slowly progressing and I have every reason to believe it's all worth it.
I looked at my email and it's still insane, but not AS insane as it has been. Did you watch my video about killing the noise? Or at least turning it down? Still, as I listened to the recording of a teleseminar I had missed, I thought to myself how much I really want to work with the woman I was listening to. Her name is Christina Morassi and she is one cool chick. I have been following her since early last year and I just love her energy. She's a photographer and I really would love to see what she could capture from me and I will. One day I will work with her and I know it's going to be fun. But for now, I'm thinking it would be cool and I'm thinking how she is one of a few people who sends emails and I happily read them. And then I'm thinking, I need to pare down some more.
See, something is coming. I don't know what precisely but it's related to my business and I'm hearing the same things from everyone and just becoming way more visual. Bizzy Girl has been stirring in the juices of change herself, finally hearing me when I told her recently that what she wants our business to do for her life is just as important as what she wants our business to do for others. "Where there is no vision, the people perish," I reminded her and one week later she heard me. Really heard me. She's got it and I'm gonna jump on it. "Excellent! Let's have a vision meeting and finally get this thing down on paper. Let's dream big!" So we're going to. And another week later I am clearing out more electronic and mental stuff because I can feel it. Something is coming.
It feels good. I made a quick list of the people I know I want in my emailbox and I'm unsubscribing from even more emails and newsletters. Tomorrow we talk vision. I think I have an empty book downstairs. I've been wanting to create a vision book and I had thoughts in my head about how to do that but screw that. I'm just gonna do what I do best - write and take it as it comes.
Something is coming. I'm so curious and excited to know what's next.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Monday, April 11, 2011
Saturday, April 09, 2011
Friday, April 08, 2011
I won't stop writing. Some things come across better in written form. But for a little while, to help keep things alive, gonna do a little vlogging. And believe me, this was no piece of cake to get working. Technology sucks sometimes. Enjoy! :-)
Friday, March 25, 2011
I'm working on vision boarding. Well, not a board but a book. And I'm not working on it NOW, but I am planning on how I want to create it. OK, so I'm PLANNING on working on a vision book. There. :-P
Anyway, I've been perusing the thought of a board but something about it was so limiting to me and because I like change, it felt like it could be a straightjacket. But writing out the vision is nothing new for me. I write letters to myself all the time as if I am already in the future. I'm sure I've mentioned here before how effective that can be. Sometimes I'm still astounded by how word-for-word some things turn out to be. (Be careful what you envision!)
So in this planning, I'm on Oprah.com using her Dream Board just to get something going and to help me figure out what I want my book to do for me when I get it. I can print out what I create on her site, which lets me import my own pictures, so it's not a waste of time. This whole thing is what helped convince me that it's time to get a smart phone because I can pull up the dream board on the phone too in the future. Or use the phone to take great pictures of things that I see and like and I can add it to my board or list of things to print out for my book right then and there. Someone already told me of a great app that will finally let me make audio notes to myself again too. (I don't know if you recall I was lamenting the loss of this feature first found in a simple cell phone years ago and never found again, despite all this super dandy technology.) So a smart phone and a vision book it shall be.
Know what I really liked about this vision board/book plan? As I thought about all the aspects of my life to include in this and all the things I want to see happen, it felt almost like it had indeed already started to happen. But what was even more interesting was what was missing - any direct reference to one of what may be only 2 things that really try to plague me in my life - my weight and my skin issues.
My skin I can live with. What choice do I have? I take care of it as best I can and consider the material of clothes I buy, the detergents I use, the material of anything I may touch, my husband vacuums deeply, I get my allergy shots and see the dermatologist at the first sign of something I won't be able to control with the current meds. I drink all the water I should (some days I fall short) and wear sunblock (no, not in the winter because it's not my bad season and I'm too lazy to go that far). My skin will do what it wants to and I assume that just like it started doing things differently with the conception of my first kid, it'll probably do something again when menopause starts edging closer. Hormones are no joke, people.
Now my weight? Well, that's another of my occasional blog topics. You know I've never been thrilled with it. Well, no that's not true. I was VERY happy with it 5 minutes before the conception of my 2nd kid. After all I was within 5 pounds of my goal and smaller than I had been in high school. Jennifer Hudson wouldn't have felt threatened but I was content with it. But with another baby came more of everything and less weight watching. Then my skin threw another curve ball for awhile. Then everything got quiet and I was just happy to be me again.
The thing is I don't really care about weight. All I care about is that I am comfortable in my skin and I really do hate to be too big because then I have to do the work of getting back down. But when I am fed up enough with something, I WILL change it. My vision board/book, though, didn't mention weight. It said I'm gonna finally get that chef who will cook us delicious, healthy meals at least twice a week because I hate cooking and refuse to pretend otherwise. It said I will get that treadclimber I really want because I did so love my treadmill. When I wanted to move, it let me do that in the peace of my own home. But it's dead now and I'm not sure what I shall replace it with until I can get that really pricey treadclimber.
That vision board/book said I buy all the clothes, shoes and purses I want when I want without thinking about sacrificing something else first. I'm no clotheshorse, mind you, like my husband can be, so you won't feel a need to call Clean House on me, but I do love to wear stuff that makes me feel good and if my husband can do one of his silent doubletakes in the process, then all the better. I could do more now, but I just have different priorities at the moment so I do what I can when I can and I go for the more costly if I can since it lasts longer.
Clothes do make the woman, don't they? When you wear stuff you like and that FITS, your weight is usually the last thing on your mind. But I may be a little off because some women see themselves as bigger than they really are - at least to the rest of the viewing public. I tend to do the opposite, but don't worry. I know I don't dress like it. I just see myself probably a little better than I really am and in my vision, at my very best, I'm just a wife and mother who is enjoying life and her business, and who love to let other people use their talents to fulfill themselves and keep me from having to cook and clean refrigerators, thank you very much.
I was really happy to see I unknowingly left this little issue on the cutting room floor. Maybe it's one of those changes from being 40 that I was expecting. Maybe I've just got too much good in my life to let this be bigger than the seed of doubt it is. I'll still keep on deliberately working to lose weight for now. It's been 7 months so far and I'm only down 17 pounds, but I'm not sad about it or anything. Now way! Better down than up I say. When it comes to my self-esteem, though, better up. So, I'll just keep on going.